Do you have advice?

Hi everyone, I stumbled onto this forum, and I hope that i am able to find some advice. I don’t know what to do, and my own decisions up until now have not been especially intelligent and have brought me only grief.

I am a 37 year old woman, I’m American, but am living in the UK at the moment with my soon to be ex-husband. He’s got an aclohol abuse problem and has become verbally abusive. it has become physical twice, and I know now that it is time to leave.

I’ve been alone here for a few years now. I have no friends here, no job, my only companionship has been him, and it is rare that he is in a decent humor or not drunk. In the States I have no family left, and my friends have all drifted off to different places. As a result, I have nohwere to go, no job, no friends. Nothing but a storage shed full of furniture and household items that I packed away when I moved overseas.

I have enough money to stay solvent for about a month, but I have no job, and I don’t even know where to go. I could go to any state, but I’m afraid to make this decsion alone. I have no job to go too, so I’d have to find something quickly, in less than a month, or I’d end up homeless.

I have been trying finishing my bachelor’s degree while here, but I won’t be through with all the requirements for another full semester. I can’t stay here that long, though. This relationship is scary.

Because of all this, I have become enormously depressed. I’m afraid I won’t be able to find a job, or a place to live, and I am afraid of being alone, and I am gutted that I have come so close to finishing my degree, only to have to put it on hold. I am dreading the move, i spend most of the day curled up in a ball, trying to figure out what to do, but I am no closer to having a plan than I was a month ago when I first realized I had to leave.

Does anyone have an idea about what I should do? I am at the point now that I just don’t think I am capable of making this decision alone, and although I pray for guidance, I am coming up empty.

Thank you for reading.

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